Keeping it real?

26 08 2008

I’ve lived in New York for the greater part of the last 7 years.  It’s really accentuated something that I see everywhere, not just in New York.  I think it’s just magnified here, like pretty much everything else.  This is a city that does it big or not at all. 

That thing that I’ve seen is just how fake most people are.  I’m really no exception, even as I actively observe it happening.  We’re all guilty of being nice to someone we really don’t like, then turning around when they’re gone and talking some shit about them.  We’re fake because it avoids conflict, or because it’s “polite,” or because we want to fit in.  I’m wondering if this fakeness is at the root of a lot of the social problems that we have. 

Over the past few years, I’ve noticed that I’m less and less willing to compromise and give in to the fakeness.  If I don’t like someone, I don’t pretend.  In some cases, I’ll just tell them.  “No hard feelings, I just don’t like you.  We’re not compatible people.  We don’t come from the same place.  We don’t see life through the same lens.”  Some people think that I’m a jackass because I do this.  It’s going to hurt someones feelings.  I look at it as, it’s going to cause a little pain now, or a lot later when this person finally finds out that I’ve been just pretending to like them.  On top of that, my life is so much less complicated just getting it all out there.

It’s odd to me that in some ways I’m attacked for being truthful and honest over being polite or nice.  Is the latter really so much better then the former?  I can’t really answer that.  I guess it’s a matter of opinion, but I’ll take the “impolite” real person over the “polite” fake person any day of the week.

Day 4 of 30 (This is going to be hard)




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